TO ZINDA HO TUM

Everyone knows this famous dialogue from the film ‘Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara’ … In the alluring voice of equally talented actor-singer Farhan Akhtar…

But Do We Feel Alive?

What does it take to feel alive?

Many times, clients keep telling me, “Shilpa, that part of me died since….”

Different people feel different part of their existence dying due to different situations or persons…

Can you relate to this…?

Since some terrible times in your life, you don’t feel good. Not yourself to start with and no matter what you do, you don’t get back to your original self…

What to do?

1.Recognize

Do you know exactly since when are you feeling this? It might or might not be a precise moment but approximate time frame should work here and then you can dig little more into the specifications.

2. Specification

Is it a situation/s or a person/s?

It is one time or a pattern?

Once you feel how long it lasts or it’s there throughout?

3. Signs & Symptoms

Varies from situations to situations and people to people.

Some feel only emotional trauma… Some physical… and some experience both pretty badly.

4. Caution

If the trauma is really deep, you go numb and you don’t feel anything or you don’t remember at times. It’s a mind’s defence mechanism to save you from that memory.

And in such situations, signs and symptoms may appear after days/months or even years, known as PTSD [Post Traumatic Stress Disorder].

5. No Waste Of Time

Once you know which situation are you in the current time, it’s better not to waste any further time and start working on it.

First step is always to recognize and to accept. Once you accept, start talking to people who can help you.

“Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.”

6. ZINDADILI

Does not come on platter.

It’s a road to travel.

It’s an everyday effort. One step at a time.

It’s very important not to have huge or unrealistic expectations.

After healing happens, fill that space immediately with happy replacements and work on them daily.

7. Important

Any trauma, smaller or bigger leaves its mark on us. It’s a reminder of our learning process. Do not expect you to get back to yourself.

Expect to get back to the better version of yourself.